The best age for marriage in Russia – the opinions of psychologists and women

When it is better to get married? Authoritative opinions of psychologists and reviews of experienced women about the best age for marriage.

Traditional maiden dream is a diamond ring, a wedding dress and, of course, the long-awaited prince himself. And, having received the proposal of hands and hearts, every girl wonders – how best to do? Postpone the wedding and wait until the senses are tested by time? Or immediately agree until the prince changed his mind? According to psychologists, it is equally wrong to immediately rush into the wedding pool with a head and pull indefinitely. Official marriage has its advantages and cons at any age.

Marriage of 16 years

By law, yesterday’s schoolgirl in our country can easily wear a veil. True, the permission from parents will still have to ask. Barely having received a passport, young «bride» It may well jump out married with this circumstance as a pregnancy. But the main thing is the question – whether happiness will bring such an early marriage, or the passion will burst at the very same household problems?

The most frequent causes of marriage in 16 years

• Inspective pregnancy.
• Negative family atmosphere.
• Excessive care and parental control.
• Irresistible traction.

Benefits of marriage at 16

• New status and the level of relationship.
• Mental «flexibility». Opportunity to adjust the character of her husband.
• A young mother will keep his external attractiveness even by the time the child graduates from school.

Few of marriage at 16

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  Absence «Masters» Talents and life experience.

• Life, Which most often destroys young families.
• The independence that will have to learn without parental support.
• Attention to yourself, beloved, which will have to be transferred to a new family.
• Lack of girlfriends, discos and care.
• Quarrels that are inevitable in the absence of money.
• Dissatisfaction due to missed opportunities.

Marry – in 18 years

At this age, in contrast to sixteen years, no longer need permission from the guardianship and parents to their personal happiness. And it is quite possible to meet a man, in whose lives there is no ex-wife nor kids from the first marriage, no aliminal obligations. But many pros and cons of marriage in 16 years have to this age.

Benefits of marriage in 18 years

• Flowering youth, which (usually) eliminates the walking of a strong half «left».
• Ability to stay «young» Mom already with a very adult child.
• The decision to marriage can be taken independently.

Few of marriage in 18 years

• Love at this age is often confused with the richness of hormones, as a result of which the chances of becoming more famous to grow old.
• Maternal instincts are present in every woman, but at this age they have not yet woke up so that the mother can surrender to the child completely.
• Such harsh changes as no possibility «Walk with girlfriends», wave into the club or salon, often become causes of nervous disruptions. In marriage, it is committed entirely and fully dedicated to the family, for which it comes, alas, not every girl at this age.

Bride at 23-27 years

It is this age, according to psychologists, is ideal for marriage. Already behind study at the university, with a diploma in the hands you can find a good job, a woman knows a lot, knows and understands what he wants from life.

Benefits of marriage at 23-27 years

• The female organism is already fully prepared for the tooling of the baby and childbirth.
• Udakhet «Wind in the head», And the girl begins to think more soberly.
• Acts become suspended and dictated not only by emotions, but also logic.

Disadvantages of marriage at 23-27 years

• Risk of incurred interests (one of the pair is not overgrown «night clubs», And the other is concerned about the family budget and possible prospects).
• Approaching the age when pregnancy can become problematic.

Marriage of 26-30 years

According to statistics and the opinion of psychologists, marriages, which are in this age, for the most part, are not dictated by not love, but sober payments. In such marriages everything is turned to the smallest detail, from the family budget to the removal of the garbage. Rather, such Marriage resembles a business agreement, Although its strength cannot be denyed – even in the absence of «Passions of youth» marriages at this age are very strong. Precisely because of the balance of its decision.
In conclusion, you can repeat one known truth – «Love for all ages». Sincere mutual love does not know obstacles, and a love boat, subject to confidence, respect and mutual understanding, crashing about everyday life will simply can’t, in whatever age, Mendelssohn.

The main reasons for which marry

All want to marry. Even those who prove the opposite. But someone later comes out, someone earlier, depending on the expectations in life. Everyone has for marriage your motives and reasons:

• All girlfriends have already jumped married.
• Conscious desire to give birth to a child.
• Strong feelings for cavaluer.
• Desire to live separately from parents.
• Acute lack of male care for a girl who has grown without a father.
• Out of man.
• Cherished status «Married Lady».
• Main parents on marriage.

Reasons for which they do not want to marry

Surprisingly, Causes for changing marriage Contemporary girls also have:

• Reluctance to engage in the economy (cook, wash and pr.)
• Independence and freedom, the loss of which seems to disaster.
• Fear of pregnancy and loss of harmony.
• Insecurity of feelings.
• Desire to live exclusively for yourself.
• Unwillingness to change the surname.
• Life position – «Fries Love».

Women’s reviews about the best age for marriage

– famous stereotype – by 25 years it is better to be divorced than never married not to. I think that it is better to get married about thirty years, when you already have everything in order with a career, and you already come on, and you will be responsible for my mother. But then attach youngsters, and then children grow like grass.

– I gave birth at 17. Immediately married. And I had no problems with «girlfriends and discos». Generally cut off all hobbies, completely in the family dissolved. Husband older than me for ten years. Still live soul into the soul, son already finishes school. And we are well combining rest with family life (and at the beginning and now) – just rest together. And domestic «Terok» It never happened.

– It is better to marry up to 25 years. After – already «Neliquial». And you already «Flash», and it is already dangerous to give birth – akin to you consider. Definitely earlier! Better – between 22 and 24 years.

– I’m 23. Until now, the wind in the head. Today I love him, tomorrow – I doubt. The views on life are constantly changing, the soul does not want to calm down, but I’m just not ready for diapers and scattered socks. I think all your time.

– Funny! You might think that I planned my marriage, and so it happened)))))). Type, marry 24! And in 24 – Baz, and the groom appeared, and married called. All this is not depends on us. As the sky will give, so it will be. Who is written in the family ..

– Me «called married» At 18 years old. Great guy. Clever, earned already excellent. I wore on my hands, always with flowers to me. What else had it? But I did not go, apparently. Refused. Said – wait, not ready for. He was waiting for the year. Then he said. As a result, I already 26, and I did not meet anyone who loved me as much. And I want to marry now, and no longer for whom.

– If there are feelings, if there is parent support, if «bride and groom» – People are reasonable, then why not? It is possible in 18. Not yet at this age youngsters stupid! And what to fear? Study can be combined in the family, if there is someone to help. Pluses more! Better to give birth early to then not break a career to the birth of a child and maternity leave. Gave birth to 18, learned in absentia. And all! All roads are open. Yes, and my husband is satisfied – the child is already big, and you are still beautiful, and all the men turn on you.))

– Early marriage is doomed to divorce. It’s a rarity when they got married in youth and have lived before the village. Yes, and what a wife from youngsters? Well that she can? Nor preparing anything! And which of her mother? For her, the child at this age is the last doll. No, only after 25 years! Psychologists of right!