It is better to be a divorced woman than never married. Myth or reality?

What is the difference between a divorced woman from unmarried? Pros and cons of these status. Labels and prejudices. Opinion of real people.

Attitude towards marriage uzam, involving complete freedom and lack «Yarma on the neck», peculiar to representatives of their sex at a certain age. Young people tend to think with horror about marriage, the girls are (most of them), on the contrary, dream of wedding dresses and adult status of married lady.

Read: Why man doesn’t want to marry?

After the binding of thirty years is passed, everything changes. Men think about to go to bed every day with one woman – it is very good, and women, oddly enough, lose all their illusions on the topic of joyful family life.

Why is this happening?

Loss of illusions. Woman after 30

What women do not want to marry again after the divorce:

• Those whose The best years of life passed in washing, cooking, cleaning and raising children;
• Those for whose shoulders the severity of judicial marriage processes;
• Those who once burned around afraid to be again in one family boat with a tyrant, a traitor or drunk;
• Those who, Tired of unrequited self-dedication, wish to be free and live according to their rules;

For those who did not seem to be married, the most romantic, exclusively in pink colors remain married. Sometimes they even think about marry the unloved, because «it is time».  They are stubborn and trying, without sorry for words and presenting numerous evidence to convince «Intelligence».

What do women want? Desires and reality

• Some color marriage and Topot of small legs, the solid status of mother and wife, and safely come to this;
• Others wish live for yourself, the charter to please the unworthy husbands, and not at all confuse the status «Intelligence»;
• On the path of the third, will of fate, irresistible arise obstacles to the dream of a dream about the wedding;
• The fourth principle does not see the need for marriage for yourself, but the label hanging on it «Old Virgin».

Society shares unmarried and «Dissolound» Two conditional categories, creating certain stereotypes. Of course, in our time free morals already no one to surprise one of these «Status», But in a relationship with the opposite sex, unfortunately, there is no no, yes, and the question is silent in the eyes.

Who is more profitable? Unmarried and divorced.

There is no unambiguous answer to this question, and probably will never be. Yes, and the opinions of the men themselves, according to statistics, divided equally.

Why better be unmarried than diluted?

1. 

   Absence negative experience of family life;

2. faith in bright strong relationships, challenged with life failures;
3. Those who pretend unmarried ladies motivate their choice «Pure white sheet», where you can write that you want without correcting «Entries» Previous «Authors».  Another half of men only inhabited eyebrows: «Unmarried? So many years, and so far no one suggested his hand and heart? It is clearly not all right».

Although, as a rule, on the way of such a woman, he simply did not meet yet The only one, for which she would gladly go to the edge of the world. After all, as you know, «it is better to be alone than with whom». But it is completely does not mean that you need to put a cross And, dressed in a hood, knit long-long scarves with lonely winter evenings. Love always comes suddenly.

Why is it better to be a divorced woman than unmarried?

Divorced woman listens about dreams never had a girlfriend with a sad, indulgent smile, shuddering from his memories of marriage. And many married ladies would prefer the freedom to visible family well-being and secretly represent themselves divorced, free and happy. Each of the women is looking for its place in this life, seeking to get your definite status.

1. Solid experience living together with a man from which conclusions can be made and avoid mistakes in the future;
2. Understanding Psychology men in status «Muga»;
3. freedom from illusions;

Equivalent situation and divorced women. One part of men considers «Dissociation» A woman who knows what is needed by a man, and perfectly understanding all the subtleties and nuances of family life. Other half sickly snort.

How to perceive the label «Intelligence» men and women?

The reasons why men are afraid to tie relations with divorced women:

• 

  Possible comparison with former spouses;

• Spoiled psyche-tirana psycheda;
• Possible «Defects» character (and other), due to which «Intelligence» remained abroad.

What women think?

For whom it may be important to this status label in society? Any woman, regardless of life situations, wants to be happy.

One, not wanting to bind yourself to the Uza marriage or waving a hand on the cavaller’s indecision, entirely devotes to a loved one – They are good and without stamps in the passport.

Many such couples are solved for marriage when children begin to come to visit them already with grandchildren.

Other, surviving up to thirty five years I am a convinced hubby man and highly climbing the career ladder, Suddenly meets a man of his dreams and with ease refuses, both from the career and from the principles, feeling happiness «to love and to be loved».

Third, Being in marriage deeply unhappy person, takes a categorical solution – «no one else will enter through this threshold by the master’s marriage gait». And suddenly, hardly time to breathe free life, falls in love with finally and irrevocably.

Happiness – Everyone has it

Stamps, clichés and shortcuts on this topic do not have absolutely no meaning. The experience of each woman is invaluable, fate is unpredictable, and a man in love – blind. And it is unlikely that it will be worried about this notorious status, the presence of a child, or the opinion of society, if his hands should tremble when looking at this woman in a desire to urgently wear a ring on her finger, and the heart will jump out of the chest.

Happiness – It has its own, regardless of status. And much more important than the inner feeling of calm and confidence than the opinion of numerous relatives, girlfriends and grandmothers on the shop at the entrance.

The opinions of women and men from the forums about the fact that it is better to be unmarried or divorced?

Victoria:

It is impossible to judge anyone! Loser – this one who lives for many years by an unhappy person and does nothing to change the situation. And if everything is fine, the soul is calm – then what’s the difference, breeding or unmarried? I got married only at 35 years old. And I basically was not so bad, to marriage. All satisfied. And now – even better. ?? Just someone can quite grab the love of parents, friends … baby even. Not for all marriage is a need. So why hang labels? I do not understand … By the way, many familiar men set this question. Type who will be more interesting for them – married or explosion. All, everyone said – «What is the difference, if only a person was good». So fuck all this. Stamps of a sick society and people who have too much time to invent nonsense.

Olga:

Everything is so individually … I have, for example, a girlfriend jumped married to not stay in old guys (with normal men they have tens there, so she was afraid that they would no longer marry). They have been living for ten years. Two kids they. But she lives like in a cage. Does not feel happy. And in the other – three children, she was divorced for a long time, but happy! Already envy. And does not want to marry. And I still have no married. Well, here is not lucky and that’s it. Although I want, of course, take care, love, wait from work … But here is not the fate. But it’s not want to rush at the first oncoming. ?? Better really alone than with unclear with whom.

Egor:

Breeding is bad. They are all inquisitive some, exhausted and evil. And unmarried, especially, after thirty years – concerned and also evil. So there is no pluses there. One old maid, other old fool. One is, what to remember, but it was better nothing at all, but the second even remember nothing. If you immediately marry you can’t hire – write «Lost». Yes, and why get married at all, if then it is still to divorce? And one more difference is in appearance. If the breeding has already waved his hand to his beauty, and at home walks in a terrible bathrobe with an explosion of uncooked hair on her painter, then unmarried, in the hope of catching someone on the hook (the years are pressed, it is necessary to give birth), it is necessary to give birth like on Fair – anyone notice. It can be even possible to determine on the street – who is looking for a man, and to whom they have long been drum. Pitiful spectacle – both those and others.

Tatyana:

I know a lot of divorced women who are not at all angry, very cute, vitality and attractive. And men go around them with flocks and in the stacks add up, not paying attention to any statuses. Here is unmarried … few people know who would be happy, being not married after thirty. If only those who are already with children. And if there is no child – here you want – do not want, and the Maternal instinct takes his. And men always feel the hunter. And try to stay away from her. Fact.

Irina:

Listen, I still had twenty years old, and the relatives were already due – crazy! Not married! Stay old V! When I was knocking 25, they generally began tantrum, and parents began to let me in the cavaliers of different (idle sons of their friends). I did not know where to go from their guardianship! When I braked thirty, they waved her hand. By the way, I myself was not particularly strained from my loneliness. ?? And the prince of my I met quite unexpectedly at 31. And immediately pregnant. In, happiness was the parents. ??

Olesya:

These statuses come up with losers! Here it is all awry in their lives, they come up with these bikes! What difference is a breeding, unmarried … everything is so individually! There are, of course, those who marry coming down, divorced with a scandal, and then hates all the white light. But they are not so much. And the poor, unmarried – they are not to blame that life does not develop! The girl is familiar – the clever, beauty, well, will not meet his happiness. Some are afraid to approach, think – such a beauty is already clearly married for a long time, others do not want to talk about them. But the most terrible, relatives drip her on the brain – the old Virgin, they say, stay! And try to put on some nerds, quietly drinking. What for? Well, I did not meet again, so then meet! Evil is not enough. It seems, modern society, and some solid medieval!

Maria:

Well, yes … there is such a stereotype. Type, not married at 25-30 years, it means that there is no knowledge … And I know the men who think so. Moreover, about married, and about breeding. MOL, Mother lonely – So the problem is some kind. So, you do not want to live with her. So that a poor girl walks (the woman is already) in the vain hope to meet his dream, although in fact she is more painful than all who those men can imagine.

Ekaterina:

I think it is better to be breeding. Still, loneliness imposes an imprint on the psyche. Look for yourself, any old girl take – brains rafken, cats dogs, stench in the apartment is terrible, they look at the men, like fluffs on rabbits, in the hope that «And suddenly, at least someone bites their honor, and then it will be obliged to marry». ?? Divorced woman already has experience, tremendous experience. She already knows how to behave with a man, how to avoid mistakes, and if lucky – it raises a baby. And in principle, he can manage his life herself. And if a worthy person meets, then their marriage will be much stronger than her previous. Because knows already where the dog rummaged. ??

Inna:

And I myself amicely deals to unmarried. HM. ?? It seems to me that there can not be a normal girl to stay lonely. In any case, if not married, then at least it should meet with someone. And if not, it means not everything is in order of her … and the fact, after all, all old maids are inadequate. Everything.

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