How to react to treason?

Signs of men’s treason. How to act and what not to do when you learned about treason?

Treason … This word cuts the ear. But if it’s not just a word, but a famous fact, then the heart is already torn to pieces. Inside only a sense of humiliation, loneliness, bitterness. News about treason not everyone to transfer. Why are generally recognized in treasures?

How to understand that the husband changes you? Signs.

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  Husband clings to everything.

• Goes to sleep on the sofa or not responding to your sexual desires without explaining the reasons for his behavior.
• Does not want to share with you your affairs and impressions.
• Shows attempts to change you outwardly (hairstyle, clothes, perfume), although before this did not do this.
• Itself unexpectedly changes: new hobbies, clothes, perfume, desire to change the car.
• Very much attention pays for his appearance, although before him was not observed.
• Finding a house with him, a man is delayed until the night at work, it comes from work not hungry.

These are universal signs, but every woman who has fallen into such a terrible situation may certainly add their individual observations here. Everybody has something in common – not one woman will not react to her indifference. Some become aggressive, evil and unbalanced, others, on the contrary, try to behave adequately, without showing bright emotions, that is, keep everything in themselves. And the first, and the second very harm to their mental state in such behavior. By this they destroy their identity and injure the nervous system. Indifferently accept news about treason can only a woman who does not like her husband.

How to behave when you learned that the husband changes you?

The most important thing is to address the problem with a cold mind. Your first thoughts «As he could? Why? I do everything for him!» Of course, you can afford to cry, fuck, suffer, but not more than three days, otherwise your self-esteem will begin to evaporate, and after this pity will cover all your thoughts. It can not be allowed categorically! The situation you will no longer reverse, you will not return the past, do not fix the deed, but you can save the relationship. It is important not just to preserve, but to bring them to a qualitatively new level of development, to a new stage of evolution, otherwise everything will happen again and again. Because such relationships were, obviously do not suit your man, since he committed such an act. After all, infidelity itself will not arise. This is a consequence, some specific errors in the relationship between men and women. Usually treason do not occur in marital couples, where everyone gets to the maximum what he wants, and also gives back.

See also: What if your boyfriend or husband looks at other women?

What actions take?

It depends on many factors:

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   Your own feelings and desires, whether you want the husband to stay with you. If you understand that it turns out, and there are already no feelings that there are no sense to try to restore everything. And maybe treason killed everything you have experienced to this person, this is also not uncommon. You can understand with pain that unable to forgive Treason. You can be disgusting to think that this man, previously such a native man, hugged and kissed another body and lips. If one of these examples is just your case, then most likely you never return the relationship to the original state of unconditional love and trust to each other, and therefore there are no ways to relax happy life.

2. What was the treason? Single or regular, conscious or random, only at the physical level or together with feelings? Even forced treason, as far as unrealistic it did not sound. For example, to keep a good position, or get. This, of course, does not, no, does not justify such an act. Any treason is a betrayal, just circumstances are different. If the betrayal is regular and with some feelings, then it will be harder for you to completely regain my husband. Motherwise betrayal is no better than regular, but here, of course, it is easier to give an explanation and forgive. After all, all people are mistakenly mistaken, everyone has the right to an error, if it does not happen.
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   What are your relationship with your husband: excellent, good, normal or problematic. If you accurately determine the status of your relationship, then it will be easier for you to understand the reason for the treason and homing. Any relationship with problematic can be brought to excellent or even beautiful. The main thing is to want to create a plan of action and go strongly and adamant to your goal.

4. What is the situation S «That woman»? Waiting for it «there»? If it is married, then this is a clear case of two people found a way to fill the missing gaps in their family life. More often it happens that the woman with which is changing is alone. Here you can already know her thoughts, although not necessarily.
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   Having all the pros and cons and deciding that you love the husband and want to fight for him, you can proceed to action. One of the most frequent causes of treason is addictive. Feelings stuck over time, the severity of sensations in sexual relations has long been forgotten. So it is very important to dispel in my eyes this stereotype «Creativeness». Very effective way is the change of image, appearance. It would be nice to apply cardinal changes. After all, the word «Treason» how to synonym the words «change», That is, the desire of the traitor to change something. So change. But not in favor of her husband, but for his pleasure. There are a lot of opportunities. You can short trigger, from the blonde to paint into the brunette or vice versa, buy a new dress, change the style of makeup, perfume and t.D.

What can not be done when you learned about treason?

1. A big mistake is constant crying and «snot», Every day an unhappy person, accusing a husband in all troubles, talk about the past, scandals and hysterics. All this will not lead to anything good. Now you need to think only about how your life will be built. Try to talk about the future. Speak calmly, with dignity and reasonableness. Do not seek the guilty in what happened, do smart – build your relationship if you want to save them. But, in any case, any decision, whether even parting and divorce should not be taken in «Fire», It is important to do it with a clear head and without unnecessary emotions.
2. In no case do not be treason in response, By this you will not help anyone, but only aggravate the overall state of affairs and your mental health.
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   Do not saw her husband And do not express gross reproaches in his direction. Men very often have a relationship on the side due to the happening of life. At home only and hear some household conversations about banal issues (rent, buying food, clothes and t.NS.), and with a woman on the side you can just be a welcome man who does not need anything besides him.

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   Give a man in sex everything he will ask. Unsatisfied sexual desires sometimes are the main reason for the hike to the left in search of the desired. And if everything desired is at home, then why go somewhere?

5. Light the belly dance And arrange a periodically romantic dinner with a subsequent striptease and all the consequences arising from here. Believe me, even having left for a business trip to another city, your favorite will remember such evenings, and wait with a look at home.

Whatever you decide, remember the old, but the eternal proverbs – «All that is done, all for the better». It is important to understand that you can save the family and relationships only if you are exactly sure that you will never remember this treason and make a husband periodically. But also forget about it is not worth it, otherwise you risks to test the repetition. Keep yourself in a tone, love yourself, take care of your loved one and respect him, then calmly live together to the golden wedding, which remains you to wish!

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