Relationship with a divorced man
How to determine whether a divorced man is able to re-create a family. Types of divorced men. How to behave with breeding. Children from the first marriage in a man
In our time, a divorced man after thirty years no one surprises anyone: marriages at a young age are often unsuccessful after 5 years of family relations. Therefore, when another young man returns to the ranks of bachelors with such experiences behind the shoulders, naturally, it causes the interest of new partners.
Opinions and suspicions of divorced
Often, public opinion after the divorce fell not only on a woman who allegedly lost a family hearth, but also on a man instantly attacked by aspirations and consolations, but behind the back – speculation and suspicious rumors.
Of course, if you are tuned to a serious relationship with a divorced man, you need to try to find out what his past marriage was and why he failed.
Cause of divorce in each pair its own, and sometimes this tangle from the problems is not at the power to unravel even themselves.
To ask directly why wept with my wife and who became the initiator of the break of relations not only tactlessly, but he can direct your relationship at all at all. Cause emotional experiences about the past cruelly, and will not give an objective answer – which was not so married.
The only way out is to learn about the past from his friends or relatives who are located briefly and truthfully state the situation. Why do you need such intelligence? Details of family scandals and troubles know completely nothing, but alcohol addiction, cruelty, treason, reluctance to have children or provide a family – important and disturbing information.
Such details of the divorce of your new familiar breeding man should not be ignored, because in the future the drama can be played out with your participation. But it is not a fact that the newly new bridegroom will tell you about it.
Psychology of the divorced man
We are talking, of course, about psychological injury, which is manifested in different ways depending on the age and nature of each.
It has long been noticed that if the marriage lasted for more than five years, the former spouse may suffer from the so-called deferred depression.
This form of the oppressed state is not developing immediately, but perhaps 1-2 years after the divorce, in the case when it does not create a family re. No in vain in the people is the opinion that serious relationships with a divorced man can be created only for the second year of his free life, when the experiences will be hurt, sacred pain and person will be able to decide what he wants for himself in the future.
So what happens in the first two years after the divorce? It all depends on the natural inclines of the nature and degree of defeat from the last marriage.
Odnolyba calmly and methodically can make new relationships, try to develop them with different women and even plan a new family.However, in the psychology of the divorced man with such a warehouse of the nature and in its actions there is a coldness and sadness, and often cynicism.
Divorced man-mononomy may not know about such a particular feature. But a woman next to such a person immediately feels his losing position and seeks to complete the relationship. A few years after the divorce, he may have one or two novel without continuing, and a great risk remain alone.
Babylikes are sometimes breeding «Inseparable». Even if the former spouse is not inclined to serial relations and treason, after a traumatic divorce, he may try to drown out the feeling of self-satisfaction with numerous dates and sexual feats. The responsibility and creation of a new family with a person at this stage of his emotional rehabilitation does not have to count.
Divorce can free the ex-wife, but not a husband, if it belongs to such a type of divorced
men who, after the collapse of the relationship with all the soul remains true to the family. Often they have hot loved ones and look at the former spouse, first of all as their mother.
Coolly tear such a devotee family man from the ex-wife is impossible, because often she, and children really need his full participation. Another thing is that living half in the first family, he will not be able to fully create a second. Leno-Wispers – Another type of victims of unsuccessful family relationships and painful gap. The modern woman’s monastery is not one who wakes up a wonderful sex. Rather, he lost the ability to treat a woman, as to equal, respect and love her.
A series of no meaningful novels, sex without commitment, partners for one night – here are the consequences of a heavy divorce. At best, after a few years, the horizontal will come out, and he will cease to take offense to her friends for a former wife.
Terms of communication with a divorced man
Requires a sea of delicacy and ocean heat for a young man who has just passed through divorce.
If you do not want to wait two years, while he himself cope with stress, and we fear that the bachelor will intercept any other, then observe the following rules:
stop not moderate enough complaints to you «in a vest», Out of the killing romantic feeling between you;- Do not let yourself ask about how it was and who is to blame – he himself must tell you when will be ready;
- If he opened you something from his past relationships, do not demand details – it will not play your hand, because the strong floor is not tied to his confessors;
- Be careful and attentive – it often it turns out that after the divorce, the newly-handed bachelor starts several novels at once or, at least around him there is someone else, like you, who enjoys his attention;
- Avoid critics, cruelty, cynicism and jealousy, it will hurt him much more than the usual bachelor;
- Take care, do not hurry with bed, but later, if relations with a divorced man seem to be unpromising, openly declare that you are not satisfied – perhaps he will find the strength to change something in itself, and if not, then You should not waste time in whose feelings are not sure.
Divorced man with a child
If children have children left for the first marriage, you should understand that it gives more pros, than minuses. Of course, you have to fear that visiting their children in the house of their mother, a man cannot fully abstract from the former spouse.
But these relationships can teach a man of maturity of judgments and feelings, the ability to rebuild evolution and the ability to rebuild.
Watching the relationship between the divorced man with the child from the first wife, you can learn more about him and present it as a father of your common children.
An alarm signal can be complete ignoring a man’s own children. Such a severity you will not be useful in a new family.
A special case when a man leaves a child after a divorce. The only way in this situation is to take it as a native. Not only the personal happiness of your choice depends on this, but also the difficult life of children taking you as a mother.
