The main causes of divorce

Disappointment and intolerance to the partner puts the family in the risk group. We will look at the behavior that destroys families, material causes of divorce and psychological divorce factors

As the classic said, each family is unhappy in its own way. And yet, sociologists managed to summarize the materials of polls and allocate the main causes of divorces and somewhat different motives, or social reasons for the cessation of marriage.

Most steam respondents admitted that the formal phrase «Inspealous disagreements» when they are divorced others, more specific problems.

So, disappointed in the personal qualities of the partner there were 40% of the survey participants, could not bear poverty 20% (most – women), vinyl a spouse in irresponsible behavior regarding the family as a whole another 30%. And only the tenth part called the cause of the divorce with her husband cooling of feelings.

Which families are in the risk group

Statistics assigns to official divorces a third of all marriages in Russia. In the risk group, oddly enough, in the first place are families in the range from 3 to 6 years of marriage with young children and newborn. Therefore, children, contrary to expectations, do not hold modern spouses together.

In second place, families with experience of 20-25 years old, in which spouses, growing and putting children to feet, suffer from syndrome «empty nest». But less often there are cases of divorce in childless families, when the reluctance of one of the spouses becomes the cause of the divorce ever to have their or admissions.

The risk of divorce, in fact, is not the cause of divorce a married couple and cannot serve as an exact indicator, but some factors suggest reflections. That if some marriages from the very beginning have bad chances of survival? For example, in many conflict families, the guy and the girl before the wedding were familiar less than 6 months and simply did not have time to know each other as follows.

Psychologists do not claim that an additional six months for cares to weddings would help to identify shortcomings in the future partner and avoid unsuccessful marriage. On the contrary, the spouses would have got every chance of more successful and long-term relationships, because they would be morally ready for disadvantages of each other.

Disappointment, and often shock, from the inconsistency of dreams and reality very quickly creates a destructive atmosphere in a young family. Few who are able to withstand conflict «It was – became» in conditions of barely started family life.

Another head of the early divorce – the mercenary attitude of one of the spouses, simply speaking, marriage by calculation. And you can count not only on wealth and influential status of the future husband or wife.

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Emotional dependence, for example, girls from their older, strong and experienced partner can turn into trouble.

Women are always looking for a support in her husband that in itself does not destroy the family – this is a sign of a normal marriage. But in a situation where the wife receives protection, using an unloved husband, she risks acquiring an irritation, anger, jealousy and neurosis, and a man can begin to behave despotic. Such a marriage is doomed to divorce because of the absence of love in its basis.

Behavioral causes of divorce in a modern family

The struggle of one of the spouses with the unacceptable behavior of another can stretch for life. Russian women courageously endure alcoholism with her husbands as if it is an unpleasant character trait, like rudeness or hot temper.

At the same time, such reasons for the divorce began to appear in the responses of respondents, as a spouse’s disease, and there is nothing proud – this is a negative trend of almost direct betrayal of marriage and family promises, along with treason.

Among the unacceptable qualities of a husband or wives who lead to divorce, often indicate:

• constant solution of conflicts by sorry and scandals;
• refusal to secure a family (in men) and conduct a general economy;
• unreasonable separate accommodation;
• detected treason, betrayal, lie;
• alcoholism and drug addiction;
• Theft and other illegal actions.

Material reasons are also important

Psychologists argue that poverty conditions make family members extremely impatient on each other. Even if both partners are based on efforts to get out of debts on loans or simply provide their existence, the atmosphere of voltage absorbs all their strength and reduces tender feelings on «No». Poverty is a real test for marriage, especially with several children. It happens that the husband loses the ability to make money and contain a family falls.

In this situation it is very difficult to rely on patience and loyalty of the spouse, because it feels unfairly deprived.

People are difficult to make changed circumstances, adjust the rhythm of the life of a sick person, sacrifice their time and forces, supporting him. The feeling that everything could work out otherwise, as well as the feeling of guilt destroys from the inside.

The reasons for divorces in Russia are often associated with the issue of housing. Young families forced to settle under one roof with parents, also risk not to celebrate the 5th anniversary of the wedding. Just half aigio to two years required for the development of the conflict with the eldest generation.

Then the painful junction follows: either spouses come to another room, perhaps with worse conditions, or one of them remains in the parent house, and the marriage suffers the collapse.

Why is this happening? Parents are trying to control the family life of their children, concentrate on problems between spouses, impose hostility and instill a disappointment with each other.

Sometimes a permanent source of conflict becomes life when the younger generation does not want to keep household goods in accordance with parents. In any case, the parent house is not the safest place for a young family.

The most common causes of the divorce of the material plan:

•  poverty, lack of the most necessary;
• debts of one of the spouses;
• loss by spouse of working capacity;
• Problem with housing.

If the feelings have changed – this is a disturbing sign

Petty, excessive independence, inability to respond for their solutions and many more negative features gradually bring spouses to think that they are just not a couple. Patience, which keeps some years, can have others to deal with the first year.

Spouses who have become unbearable, automatically get disharmonious intimate relationships. They are also not inclined to build joint plans for the future and quickly understand that it makes no sense to continue such a marriage.

Psychological reasons for divorces:

• loss of love;
• irritation;
• distrust and jealousy;
• difference in lifestyles;
• Sexual incompatibility.

It is unlikely that someone marries or marries a person who feels dislike, deeply does not respect or does not trust him. Creating a family, each counts on its portion of happiness and hopes to enjoy relationships with his spouse.

And if with time the husband and wife toughly face as two personalities, each of which has its own desires and habits, the deep reason, probably, can be considered inability to put the interests of the family in the first place.