Poor mood: looking for output
What to do if there is a bad mood, and whether it is necessary to do something at all? As you know, the correct question is a half-found answer. The question is asked – looking for the answer together
Sometimes it happens: everything is bad, your favorite books and films are not happy, but people, even the closest and relatives, cause only irritation … familiar? It means that the problem of bad mood has not bypassed you.
What to do if a bad mood? Of course, someone will say contemptuously: «Think, bad mood. Pass!». But think for yourself, because life is too short to spend it on things that poison existence, in the hope that this attack will be held. So we will fight!
Before you start our crusade against a bad mood, let’s agree immediately: «Depression», «Panic attack» and many other beautiful words leaving psychiatras.
The difference between the negative attitude and depression is about the same as between the bruising and the fracture. If a person really suffers from depression, then only medicine can help him.
Deal? So, start.
Remedy for negative mood or three steps to … anything!
I have no doubt that you know the allegory about fish and fishing rod. If someone suddenly forgot, remind you: let me hungry fish – and feed him on the day, but give him a rod – and he will be fed all his life. Today you have the opportunity to get a wonderful fishing rod – a simple program of achieving any goal of just three stages.
Here it is, our program-«fishing rod»:
- Realize the problem;
- To change yourself;
- Change the world.
You are afraid to change the world? Completely in vain, believe me, much more difficult to change yourself. And a person who was able to change himself, to change some kind of world – trifles, the right. How our miracle program works, can be seen on a simple example.
Imagine that you recline on the sofa or sit in your favorite chair, watch TV or read the book – in general, are at rest and harmony. And live well, and life is good! But this is something dreamed this harmony to break. You still do not understand what happened, but the world is not so beautiful, and the harmony swayed. The rumbling in the stomach does not leave a chance for a mistake – you got hungry.
The first stage is made, the problem is detected and is identified, the time of action. In the queue, the second point, we have the most difficult – change yourself.
Pull yourself out of the state of rest, finally break the harmony, get out of a warm blanket or throw back the favorite plaid and inhuman effort to send yourself to the kitchen.
Well, then easier – change the world. Open the refrigerator pull out from there that the heart is cute and build a dream sandwich. Vua-la! Like all? – you ask. It’s so we changed the world?
But, if you think, it is exactly that it is – never from the very moment of creation and until this day in the world did not exist this wonderful sandwicarian. And now he is. We created it, we changed the world.
The world in which there was not this sandwich, we turned into a world in which this beautiful sandwich is. And change the world cost us much less effort than changing ourselves – get up and go to the kitchen. Moved?
As long as you enjoy a well-deserved award (a miracle mega-sandwich and the consciousness that the world has your feet), we return to the problem of negative mood. Now you have «fishing rod» – a program to solve all problems, so why not try it on a negative setting?
We reveal the problem
At first glance, the problem is already voiced – no mood and you need do something. But this is only at first glance. Is it always a negative attitude is a problem? Of course, a bad mood sometimes happens to everyone, moreover, his absence and permanent «raised» A mood from anyone – the reason to think.
After all, this is how some dangerous mental illness manifest itself, and after the period of Euphoria will come serious complications.
And yet, you have never thought about the fact that a bad mood … luxury? Do not believe? Judge for yourself – can you afford a bad mood that life or circumstances is raised on the most factor of physical survival? Of course not! So if you can afford such a luxurious thing as a bad mood, know – everything is not so bad in your life.
When negative attitude becomes really a problem? It is necessary to urgently do something when a constant bad mood begins to have a detrimental effect on life. Due to the negative mood, business negotiations were broken, relationships with loved ones were worsened, they quarreled with her beloved – it means that the problem is obvious.
The problem revealed, time to start the second stage.
We are looking for the cause
We change ourselves. As you could make sure it is the most difficult stage, because it requires a serious approach. So that our efforts do not disappear in vain, it is necessary to clearly determine in which direction we need to change, and for this it is important to know exactly what violates our harmony and spoils our spiritual background.
What can be the causes of negative mood? Obvious faint reasons like the breaking of relationships, serious illness or, God forbid, the death of a loved one, we endure the brackets – here and so everything is clear. But it happens that everything seems to be all alive, healthy, all by and large, in order, but there is no joy of life. What is the case?
Mood – one of the important sensors. If something is wrong in our body, our system of embedded sensors will notify us – we will feel pain.
About the wrongness in the soul will be a heart pain, when «The heart is bleeding». Well, a bad mood is a red lamp on our domestic scoreboard, testifying about anything in relations with the world around.
Maltacks in relations usually occur in the areas of their maximum concentration:
- Family – everything is clear here, the closest people, the relationship with which is most important, and if the tension occurs here, it can spoil the condition to anyone;
- Romantic relationships – here the connection is not so deep as in the family, but a short-term emotional impact may be even stronger;
- Friends, acquaintances, working team and t.D., The most remote sphere of our relationship with the outside world. For serious impact on our emotional background in this area, constant negative impact should proceed. For example, some gossip clocks in a circle of acquaintances or rejection of the team at work.
Finding out where the negative is coming from, it is possible to start changing yourself. Each aspect of this path is worthy of a separate book. If we are talking about a family relationship, you may need to become more flexible, easier to make concessions. And maybe quite the opposite, you have already gone into our concessions too far. In general, no one knows the state of affairs in your family better than you yourself.
If the priority of the family’s preservation is unconditional (with the exception of absolutely extreme cases), the preservation of romantic relationships is desirable (as long as they do not divert into something more or not run into a natural way), regarding friends-acquaintances and labor collective it is necessary to weigh everything for and against Maximum impartial. Are these attitude to change themselves for them?
Perhaps the work that you inertia are even about yourself still call your beloved, in fact an unprotective gathering of evil chicken. BUT «Best girlfriends» – Sabbath of energy vampires, sucking your vitality, or asserting about the prokhek?
Open your eyes, look at the world soberly and not biased, freeing from the stereotypes, and your eyes will open. Well, the nurser is the truth, act – change yourself.
We are preparing to change the relationship in the family, we acquire new knowledge and skills to change the status in the labor team, or the ruthlessly wellness of the existing relationships. The topic is rich and multifaceted, so we can only tell you the general direction.
We solve the problem
After you change yourself, you have the smallest – change the world. You could already make sure how easy it is when the second stage of the plan is made.
Believe me, it is worth only to become ready for a new reality, how the world will start changing himself, bringing only positive emotions and a good mood. Well, if suddenly the depressed mood will return – you will know what to do!
