What if the husband lies on the sofa and does not think help – instruction for wives
How to lift your husband with a sofa? Read on Lady-Magazine.COM tips what to do if the husband lies on the sofa and does not participate in the life of the family. Important recommendations Wives, if the husband on the sofa lies all day
Comes from work – and immediately to your favorite four-legged friend. And until the night is lying around the TV until the time comes to bed. Even dinner sometimes I bring it there – to the sofa. And so day after day. And I do not get tired after work?
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Such a story can be heard from many women – practically «Sofa Pandemic» our time. What to do with «Sofa» husband, And what you need to know about the roots of this problem?
«Dear, you dined today?», «Scarf do not forget to wear!», «You want a gingerbread to tea?», «Now the towel is clean brought» and pr. For some reason, after a while, a woman forgets that Next to her lives not a cute boy, but quite an adult man. Which (wow!) can take a towel yourself, stir sugar in a circle, eat and find a remote control in the room.
After all, he did it all on his own sometime? And how! And not dead with hunger. And not overgrown. And even buttons have always been on the spot. And today you are after work as if the electric bar is carrying around the house (lessons, dinner, wash, etc.), and he gives you valuable instructions from the sofa.
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Who’s guilty? The answer is obvious.
- You are your own hands «blind» from a male sofa resident. Stop doing my wife «Work». No need to wake it up in the morning for 20 minutes, wondering – did he reaches well and did the evening prunes affect. Let your husband be independent.
- As a rule, a woman understands – «something is wrong», when It appears chronic fatigue, lack of sleep and constant depression. Up to this point, she calmly drags the cart for concerns, without thinking about injustice. And, of course, naively believing that the spouse will certainly appreciate her victim. Alas and ah. Do not appreciate. And not because he is such a parasite, but because for him it is already the norm.
- «He can’t do anything without me – even cook potatoes!». Mistaken. He is simply convenient not able to know. Do you really think that a man who is able to professionally solve business problems, produce the most complex calculations and quickly understand the most difficult technique, can not wash the dishes, weld sausages or throw underwear in a washing machine?
- «If I will not jump around him, he will leave to the one that will». Another stupidity. Men love not for the workshop washing dishes and not even for patty every evening to tea. You’re just then, at the very beginning, you missed this important point: not to free it was from homework, but to divide in half «Joy / Sorrow». Then he would help you now in a habit, not even thinking – and is it a male case.
- «After his help, I have to redo everything for him». so what? Moscow was not built in a day! Your child, for the first time, posting a blue T-shirt with white socks, also did not know that white things can paint. Today he erases independently because he learned. Give my husband the opportunity to learn. You, too, will not be able to professionally hang the shelf in the kitchen, first using a drill.
- Want a favorite helped you? Make it so that he wanted it. Not a scream from the kitchen – «When you already, snake, get up with this sofa and replen the faucet!», and affectionate request. And do not forget to praise him for work, because he has «skillful fingers», and generally speaking «no man better on the whole world». Even if you are a little bit, my husband will still be more pleasant to help with cleaning potatoes in a gentle wife, able to appreciate his help than Meager, who goes to his ears from morning to evening.
- Do not take too much. You are not a horse. Even if you are able to drag this concern for yourself twenty years, pretend weak and helpless. A weak woman wants to patronize, a strong woman of such a desire will not arise. Because she will cope herself. No need to drive a nail yourself – call my husband. No need to twist the nut on the underlying crane – it is also his work. And if you have to combine dinner and lessons with children, then you have the right to divide my duties with your husband – you do lessons with children, and I cook, or vice versa.
- You do not need to perceive his help as Manna Heaven, fall into his feet and kiss traces on the sand. But thank, definitely need.
- Do not force and do not forced. Just stop wash windows, late with dinner, forget about the washing of shirts, etc. Let it understand that you are not a robot, but a person who has only two hands, and that – weak.
- If nothing helps, the spouse continues to lie on the sofa and help you are not going at all, then think about – and whether you really need such a husband?
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