Polygamy men – myth or reality?

The controversial question about the instinct of polygam. Modern types of polygamy. Polygamy of men and psychological motives for this theory. Why polygamy is not a natural tendency

One of the most controversial issues in the psychology of floors – about the polygamy of men and women’s monogamine. Is nature awarded us with opposite qualities? What opportunities are the representatives of both sexes see?

What fear and what men and women are sparing about, faced with a statement about the polygamy of their loved ones?

What does the term polygaminess mean

In nature, polygamy is the trend of males and females to mating with several representatives of their own species, without the formation of a constant couple. This common method associated with the reproduction is not the only one, since there are pairs of animals associated for a lifetime not only by reproducing offspring, but also care about it.

Note that at the same time, representatives of their species have no choice, and instinct dictates them either a polygamine or a monogamous behavior model.

People have polygamy from the point of view of a marriage law called multipath and a multibernation, which in modern Western society is prohibited by law. Interestingly, if, for example, a person had several consecutive marriages at different times, it cannot be considered a polygamine.

In an ordinary presentation, polygamy is considered to be the desire for numerous sexual relations.

Situations in which such a desire is implemented by many: 

• romantic ties out of marriage;
• free relationship paired with;
• Swinging (sharing sexual partners);
• sex without commitment;
• Sexy drift – moving from one partner to another in a circle, without breaking relationships.

Thus, polygamy in many signs is true treason, but with a shade of unconscious, animal motivation, which, according to some, protects against moral condemnation.

The male variant of polygamy is usually perceived by society more tolerant than women’s. Men seem to want to want a variety, sexually desire of many women and strive for proximity to them. Moreover, in the male world, numerous love adventures raise authority in the eyes of buddies and employees and even serve as the subject of pride alone and the envy of others.

It is worth noting that it is not all because not everyone considers, and most people still look at the relationship as a connection between one man and one woman. Many are negatively configured against traditions that have been preserved in some countries, according to which a man is allowed to have a few wives at the same time. And the idea of ​​several husbands is completely unusual, which, however, does not meet at all.

Motivation of a polygamine partner

Since the polygamy is neither orientation or innocent instinct, then in everyday life its place is somewhere in the middle between conviction and myth.

Why some people declare their polygamy or simply defend her idea? What is convenient for such a position? Most likely, this is either the point of view of a person who does not want to look old-fashioned in a conversation, or a clumsy way of the womanizer to justify its loyalty.

Family psychologists, working with conflicts between spouses, face the intamability of her husband and wife not only in domestic issues, but also in opposite views on life. What if the husband approves the polygamy?

Is this evidence of his desire to change? Psychologists claim that it is not necessary. Sometimes we just adhere to some kind of life, but are not going to do in agreement with him. If the spouse does not go to the left, but only sometimes declares that nature gave him such a desire, it does not mean that he will definitely take advantage of the case of changing his wife.

But, perhaps, he should stop provoking her beloved if it is hard to carry a similar «Litness views». For some, it can be empty chatter, for someone – the reason for jealousy, and it will be a pity if the conversations on the point of view will destroy the family from the inside.

Another thing, if a man was standing in treason and tries to justify his actions by a cynical statement – «I’m polygamine and point». The motive of such faith in the polygamy of men chalk and is selfish that it is easy to prove. Treason has always been and there is a reason for the divorce, not to mention the cooling of the feelings of a deceived partner.

Responsibility for your deed, contrary to morality marriage, a man must be fully. This is the fear of losing your spouse, and the recognition of your guilt, and the full awareness of the lowestness of your act.

However, men who confess the idea of ​​polygamy use this excuse to remove not only the guilt and the consequences of treason, but also close from any attacks in their address. Thus, they are not only innocent in their eyes, but they do not want to listen to claims and see the consequences of their destructive actions.

A position similar to this has nothing to do with the hardness of beliefs, in fact it is the posture of a egoist and a coward hiding for some «Natural laws», the essence of which he is unlikely to understand.

Why monogamion and polygamy equate to the law of nature?

Indeed, one of the most outrageous ideas that attribute the male polygamy is its naturalness. The desire of men to have several sexual partners allegedly dictated by nature itself.

Convenient assertion from which the conclusions should be made somewhat:

• There is nothing personal in treason, it is calling nature;
• condemn as meaningless how angry with the weather;
• Any oaths of loyalty are not excellent and unnatural.

Proponents of polygamy do not want to listen to the arguments that are given by biologists, about the meeting of monogamy in birds, fish and the same primates, which for some reason so often lead as an example «Elder marriage».

Also not interesting to them and contradictions in their «Theory», Indeed, in nature, within one species, there should be only one principle – either the male polygamans, or not. And if the polygamy was an instinct, he would act absolutely to all people, while there are faithful spouses, and monochrises.

In fact, real confirmations from the field of science and life are not needed by supporters of polygamy. Their main benefit is a suitable name for their sexual promiscuity or psychological problems («I love both!»).

The only thing that should be feared by such convincing polygamy males, these are real changes in personal life. After all, it happens, in mature years there is a different understanding of happiness, weakens the need for sexual victories, a man learns to be approved in another area, a single woman appears ..

How then will have to do with congenital, irresistible, almost genetic polygamy? To pretend spiritually healed, who believed in God, to renounce the former sins – «Overworked» often covered with religiosity just as they did with natural instinct.

Positional Polygamy is thus disadvantageous. Only some areas of science can consider it, for example, historical sociology or zoology.

In modern psychology of relations, she, apparently, is not a place: any references to an unconscious or innate model of behavior are deprived of a person opportunity to change according to their conscious choice and learn from their own experience, draw conclusions from their behavior.