5 steps helping to develop confidence

How to get rid of fear of failure and cargo of negative experience. Self-confidence comes with self-conformity. Why is it important to develop determination. How to add speeds to your actions

Self-confidence – the quality that is not born, but acquire it thanks to focused efforts. If you feel that you lack it, go through these five steps and open yourself from the new side!

Psychology of the personality has recently stepped far beyond the limits of naive tips, which can now only cause the reader’s smile. Just be yourself or try to impress «Business-broken» – by no means the most understandable recommendations, which we have to break the head. So what is this very confidence in yourself and how to develop it? 

Step number 1: Think about confidence strategically

This is not some kind of muscle that you can work on the simulator, and not even the mood so that it easily raises it. Rather, such a complex is the reflection of all that you have accepted on your own expense, in which emotions have invested and eventually believed that this is true. What to do now? 

First, look at what this complex consists of:

• All your victories and lesions, starting from early childhood;
• material status – during life you felt wealth or need;
• Your performance in school subjects and studies at the university;
• past works, and most importantly – in which key you see this experience now;
• personal life, family relationship, with opposite sex, with friends;
• Your attitude to appearance. 

It turns out a list covering the main spheres of life. Now go through it and for each item, find the phrase that best describes your past experience. Write it down on paper. If you are not confident, your personal list will be filled with negative.

Take a look at how you describe your life. It is these discontent, fears, insults and memories of the collapse of the cracked plans over time turn into junctions that restrain your confidence and turn you into a kind of loser.

How to gain confidence and get rid of fear chains? To begin with, take a look at the list of your failures and promise, looking into the mirror, that whatever chagrins are left in your heart, it will not be the reason for your future failures.

Fear of the new case, a new position or new relationship is born of confidence in its unsuccessfulness, unemployment and unattractiveness. As soon as you realize that this fear is just the result of what you are accustomed to think about yourself, consider it the first and most significant victory over uncertainty. 

Step # 2: Realize Change

The next step, how to gain confidence, also psychological. Usually unsure people think that they know well. But the truth is that a person is inclined to focus on his image from the past. There are good news for you: Your information is probably outdated!

Remember yourself as a child: You may have been distressed that you can’t cook such a tasty borsch, like your mom, but I knew exactly what matured and learning how to cook be sure to master this dish.

Children wise, they know that their failure is temporary, because they will definitely change, will become an adult, stronger, more sensible and t. D. Take an example with children and do not consider your uncertainty the final sentence. We do not cease to change, gain experience and «grow» in all spheres of life.

What paralyzes your will is nothing more than fear of mistakes, but not at all knowing the limits of its capabilities. Today you are not the same person that a year ago, and the misses were made not by you today, and you last year ..

Ability to start every day with a clean sheet – precious quality of prosperous people. From now on you should not spend not a minute of your time and a drop of forces on the experiences of past days. This liberated energy will be useful to you to perform the following, more practical steps. 

Step number 3: You must trust

What do you think about yourself personally? Would you decide for marriage with such a person like themselves? Would go with you on the journey, whether you are your friend? Would take themselves to work, whether you are the head of the department? Uncertain people on these questions only sadly swing their heads. The reason is almost always in one – they do not trust themselves.

The psychology of confidence is based on a full, unconditional self-acting and faith in its own positive qualities that help to cope with the affairs. However, you are absolutely right if you think the trust need to earn. That is what you have to do.

Imagine a bank account in your name, let’s call this score «My reputation». Imagine that instead of money, there are regular examples of your punctuality, intelligence, accuracy and responsibility.

There are also a compliments from the surrounding and indirect signs that you are trusted and you are relying:

• New responsibilities for the service;
• requests for friends, friends and relatives to give advice on the issue in which you understand them better;
• Important assignments from the authorities and senior colleagues and t. NS. 

Copy your account as if you are a greedy banker! Instead of collecting episodes where you coped not in the best way, focus on positive moments, remember them whenever the level of confidence falls.

You know that when upset, only bad come to mind, you criticize yourself, scold and ready to punish yourself in tricks. Stop this!

No, you do not need to refuse constructive criticism, but do not paint your portrait with gloomy paints! «Discernment flights» It is quite possible to pay 10-15 minutes a day, and the rest of the time maintain a good mood from the inside, not forgetting to praise and encourage yourself and with your head. 

Step number 4: Act resolutely

Day after the day we defeat the habit of thinking through every situation for a long time, and even in a pessimistic key. So you will not move to success, but lose weight of the possibilities to correct your position in many areas of life.

How to increase self-confidence? Take a rule to act on the principle «Decided – Made». Naturally, your decisions should be the best possible for each situation.

To achieve this, try each time:

• Get all the necessary information – to be well-aware of the problem;
• Find a few ways to her decisions to be able to make a choice;
• Throw those that you do not like (hard, long, costly …);
• make a step-by-step action plan for one selected option;
• and most importantly – by making a decision, no longer return to this issue! 

So, work out the habit: thinking well, read what we planned and stand on your until the end. Self-confident people never give up the cases started, so do you. Any targeted action always gives the best result than endless oscillations and course change. 

Step No. 5: Develop speed

The secret, how to develop confidence, is also in the speed with which you are able to cope with the tasks. Having mastered the previous principle «Unqualified solutions», You will feel the tide of the fresh strength that will come in hand to you to truly quickly cope with any problems. Still, now you do not need to spend your time for infinite thinking of problems already in the process of their solution!

Work on your sense of urgency, create useful habits:

• proceeding to the case without postponing in a long box;
• Do not be late for the appointed time, whether it is the beginning of a working day or delivery of a quarterly report;
• just finished with the first point of your list of cases, immediately take on the second and t. D. 

Excellent Idea – Apply Time Management Principles in Life. Only please do not need to fuss! It doesn’t mean to become faster in nervously twitch every minute.

Just make actions when you previously tormented thoughts about failure, act where you used to stay from fear or feeling powerlessness. Try, and you will be surprised how much fruitful time you lost earlier due to uncertainty. 

Of course, on this work on it does not end. But even these few steps will give you a huge advantage.

You will be easier to treat past failures, you can develop confidence in yourself and improve productivity. And such strokes, like a flat posture and a calm smile perfectly complement your new portrait.