Home or office club?

Self-development in understanding of a woman. All about the confrontation of housewives and girls working in offices. Where and how to develop truly?

Girls love to discuss who more successful in their own development – those who work in offices and build a career, or those who are sitting at home, engaged in themselves, hobbies and raising children.

The question immediately appears – why such fierce disputes arise between «Careerists» and housewives? Their discussions take tens of pages on thematic forums on the Internet. From where this need must certainly prove something, because it would seem if a person is completely satisfied with his way of life, he just lives in his pleasure and does not seek anyone to convince?

Let’s try to figure out the problem. The main stumbling block in disputes between careerist and housewives is some «Self-realization», self-development.

Talk about the development and self-realization of girls as personalities. American psychologist Maslow believed that self-realization is the highest desire of a person to realize his talents and abilities. Self-realization is important for each of us.

Labor weekdays Housewives. Is there a development?

House work is the most thanks. Home work is fairly called the most thankful work in the world. Probably it’s true.

After all, in the evening, when all family members are going together, the efforts of the housewife fly to the shock, and sparkling the cleanliness of the apartment again takes its original appearance. The child will happily crumble cookies on the carpet, the dog after a walk in rainy weather begins to shake in the corridor, the husband will certainly miss, and his socks land on the floor next to the laundry basket, and the delicious dinner, for the preparation of which it took so much time will be eaten instantly, And the next day you have to cook something new. Is it not this direct confirmation of the words that the housewife is always «Sits at home, cooks borschy»?

With the right time organization, the development of the house is real!

Today, in the 21st century, things have become available to things making work on the house less laborious.

Clothes erases washing machine, plates washes dishwasher. The ladies are presented with microwaves, pressure coins and slowers with a timer, vacuum cleaners and other devices to any budget. Damage to the baby is not necessary to wash, because there are one-time diapers. Cooking also has become a less complex process: any products can be ordered on the Internet with home delivery (agree, more pleasant than carry heavy bags home). In addition, on the shelves are full of semi-finished products of all kinds and masters. If desired, cafes or restaurant workers will take you an ordered dish at home.

Is it possible to develop, sitting at home? Difficulties and opportunities.

Stereotype: Housewife «Sits at home, cooks borschy» and morally degrades.

It is difficult to organize your time … a huge complexity is the notorious literate distribution of affairs and time. In the absence of control from the house, there is a big temptation to sit down the whole day unwrapped in pajamas at a computer, playing games in the same social networks. Some women succumb to this temptation, maintaining the notorious stereotype of stupid thick housewives in a bathrobe and bigogy.

At the same time, other non-working ladies manage to develop and have their own interests, regularly attend the pool or gym, go to massage and beauty salons. Is it worth saying what they look beautiful and are interesting interlocutors.

In fact, with the right organization of cases of housewives, much more chances in the daytime «Himself loved», Own development and interests:

• Care for appearance, get enough sleep, visit the stylist and cosmetologist in a relaxed atmosphere, and not on the run on the road between work and home
• Sporting, go to the pool or gym
• To engage in self-education – read, study foreign languages, master new specialty
• Improve the qualifications and be aware of the latest news in the tasteful area of ​​interest
• Earn Money! Make money without detach «household», In fact, not so difficult. You can be a dispatcher on the phone, write articles and transfers, sit with children friends and acquaintances, give private lessons at home, knit to order and do anything, it would be desire. Some ladies manage to play stock exchange «Forex» and earn more than their working husbands.
• To enjoy life, doing a favorite thing: cooking, embroidery with cross, drawing, extreme driving, dancing and so., Communicating like-minded people and acquiring new knowledge and skills.

Office work and self-realization

Office work develops? Many girls work in offices. As a rule, it is they who are the main opponents of housewives.

Office workers come to work in the morning and leave in the evening. Due to a strictly defined working day from the office, you can leave only in the evening, even if all the amount of work you have completed before.

Is there a regular day in the office diversity? Monotonous work, conversations with girlfriends-colleagues, sending jokes by working mail, sitting on social networks and on the forums – such is the working day of the majority of those who work in the office.

Proper organization of time and office work

The main complexity and at the same time the advantage of working in the office – no need to plan a day. In terms of organizing time, the life of office girls is much easier, because most of the day has already been painted to the smallest detail. Come up with something new in everyday routine they are not at all necessary. Working day completely depends on the schedule that installed the head.

To the main difficulties we will take: Time for sports and salons have to be painted at the weekend and in the evening after work, and I want to do the hobby, and the family, of course, you need to pay attention.

Self-development and children

The ladies configured to career growth, as a result, it is possible to build a long-awaited career, for we always get what we want most. Another thing is that combining a career with small children is almost impossible without transferring to their grandmothers, nanny or in nursery – kindergarten.

As a result, if you try to combine both children and office work, then as a result we get – an admission of time for family and children. How many sad stories are found on the same forums that the career was built, and the first children’s steps and words of their child were always ever-employed women did not see, just as they did not see the smallest moments of his mature and development.

Career, by and large, can be done at any age, but the childhood of his own child is only once.

In women, stretching children alone, no choice: on how hard and much they work, directly depends on the financial well-being of their children. Those who prefer a career for the sake of self-development to raise children, can repel to repent in the decision.

So it’s better to work or be a housewife?

Like a lot in life, the possibility of self-realization of a woman depends on the properties of its character and elementary desire.

You can not stop on monotonous work in the office and seat on the Internet during working hours, and look for what you really wonder, try to combine a pleasant with useful, and then you don’t have to go to work.

Housewives can try to competently organize their daily duties, and pay time development and interests, if you wish to work at home with a free schedule.

It was then that the life of both categories of girls flashes with bright colors, and perhaps to convince others on the expanses of the Internet in the correctness of their lifestyle simply will not be necessary.

That’s what we found on the Internet expanses from the conversation of real women:

Anna: It happened that many of my friends do not work and are very surprised, why I work – why do I need constant nerves, schedule, experiences because of colleagues. One thing is the money of money, but if the husband provides, why spoil your life? In life there is something to do smart women.

Yulia: Girls are nothing so does not organize like a clear working schedule. at home you will still relax!. I get up in 6, the child to 7 in the garden, he managed to the pool before work. Then to work. In the evening run from the garden pick. On the way home to the store, dinner, to take care, I play a little with a child, I will sleep sleep. Then free time (after 10 begins): manicure, pedicure, with husband Communication, film, ironing. Loose at 23.30 – 12.00. For dinner I spend exactly 30 minutes (if you consider straight at the stove not leaving). All sorts of cutlets, homemade dumplings and so on in the evening on Sunday and on weekdays you just need to warm up. Even baking pies. On the weekend, our own cultural program. On Sunday, we rest, we do different things that they did not have time on weekdays, we accept guests, cook. All in principle time. Yes, it is heavy – life is bright, saturated. And if it were not for the office – I would not be able to organize myself so!

Vasilisa: But after all, with work, all this can be time! I plan to go to Italian courses, I work in the office + I have a part-time job. I develop as a specialist and manage to perfectly spend the weekend in accordance with my interests (always cultural program). On the chat and the seat on the Internet in the office I honestly give myself an hour, and the rest of the time I am only interested in the work that I am interested. The only thing that I do not have children – what is how to have everything with them?

Chantal: Yes, I would also like to sit at home I doubt that I would be bored – remove, cook dinner, gym, ballet school, dog, once a week cosmetologist … Eh, I would live!

Natalia: Yes, what kind of disputes about the development of the bottom or office? Development then occurs inside the personality, and not outside. Someone has time to develop working in the office, someone easier to organize at home. + Everyone has their own understanding of development. When my baby was born and I was mired, as it is now customary to speak, in diapers and mixtures – I was also a development. I passed all this for the first time and I liked it. At that moment I developed like mom. And that’s great! And if you have a new law on accounting, seems to seem to be a big development than the first Child’s Chicken – That’s your choice!

Girls and what do you think? Are women sitting at home or more development in the office? Share advice and opinions!