The child is not friends with anyone in kindergarten, on the playground – is it normal and what to do?

Why the child does not want to be friends with anyone? What to do if the child does not communicate with anyone in kindergarten, at the playground; Is it normal that the child has no friends and a circle of communication, how to fix

The child in nature seeks to study the world around the world, get acquainted with new things and people around him. But it happens that the child does not get along badly with the peers, and almost with anyone is not friendly in kindergarten or in the playground. Is this normal, and what to take to the successful socialization of the baby?

Violation of the socialization of the child in the environment of the peers – how to identify problems

Someworthy Sounds, but sometimes parents even get comfortable, that their child is always near them, no one is friends with anyone, does not go to visit and does not invite friends to himself. But this behavior of the child is rather abnormally, because loneliness in childhood can hide behind him whole reservoir intake problems, The problems of the socialization of the child, Disorders of the psyche, even Nervous and mental illnesses. When parents should start beat the alarm? How to understand that the kid is alone and has problems in communication?

1. The child begins complain to parents that he has no one to play, that no one wants to be friends with him, no one speaks with him, everyone laughs over him. It is worth noting that such confessions, especially since children are very closed and shy, you can hear very rarely.
2. Parents should look more on their child from the side, notice all the slightest problems in behavior and communicate with children. When playing a playground, a child can be very active, ride a slide, on a swing, run, but at the same time – not to contact with any other children, or to enter with others to numerous conflicts, but don’t try to play with them together.
3. In kindergarten or school where the children’s team is assembled in one room on most of the day, the child with socialization problems is becoming even more difficult. He does not have the opportunity to move aside, educators and teachers often try to involve such children into overall activities outside their desire, which can only add them stress. Parents should look at – with whom of the child the child communicates whether he turns to someone for help, whether the guys are treated for this child. At the festive events, parents can also notice – whether their baby is active on the holiday, whether the poems tell, does anyone dance, chooses him someone a couple for games and dances.
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   Houses a child with pathological not necessity never tells about his peers, friends. He prefers games alone, may reluctantly go for a walk.

5. The kid is not against staying at home on weekends, he does not feel bad when he plays one, Sits in a room alone.
6. Child does not like to go to kindergarten or school, and is always looking for any opportunity not to visit them.
7. Most often the child comes from kindergarten or school nervous, excited, upset.
8. Baby Birthday does not want to invite anyone from the peers, and no one also invites him.

Of course, these signs are not always talking about pathology – it happens that the child in character is very closed, or, on the contrary, self-sufficient and does not need a company. If the parents noticed A number of disturbing signs, who talk about the pathological imbumance of the child, its reluctance to be friends, problems in socialization, it is necessary immediately take action, until the problem has become a global, difficult to correct.

The child is not friends with anyone in kindergarten, on the playground – the causes of such behavior

1. If at the child many complexes or there is some kind of physical disadvantage – Perhaps he is shy of this, and leaves direct contact with peers. It also happens that children tease the child because of its excess completeness, inaccurability, stuttering, moldability and t.D., And the child can leave contacts with peers Because of the fear of being ridiculous.
2. The child can avoid contact with other children because of its appearance – Maybe the children laugh at it not very fashionable or untidy clothes, the old model of a mobile phone, hairstyle and t.D.
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   Negative child experience: Perhaps the child always suppress parents or senior in the family, On the child often scream in the family, His friends had previously climbed and not allowed to take at home, and later the child begins to avoid peer companies in order not to cause the anger of parents.

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   Child who lack parental love, inclined to feel lonely and in the company with peers. Perhaps the family recently appeared another child, and all the attention of the parents sent to the youngest brother or sister, and the older child began to notice attention, feels unnecessary, inept, bad, «uncomfortable» for parents.

5. The child becomes an outsider in a children’s environment often because of their shyness. He was simply not taught to come to contact. Perhaps this child had problems with infancy in dealing with their native people who were in his forced or narrative isolation (a child born not from his beloved man, a child who spent a lot of time in a hospital without mom, having the consequences of the so-called «hospitalism»). Such a kid simply does not know how to make contact with other children, and even afraid of this.
6. A child who always behaves aggressively and noisy, also often suffers because of loneliness. It happens to children who have received the hyperfield of parents, the so-called dumplings. Such a child always wants to be the first to win, be better than all. If, in the children’s team, this is not accepted, he refuses to be friends with those who, in his opinion, is simply not enough attention.
7. Children who do not attend children’s institutions – And, for example, they are brought up by a caring grandmother, also belong to the risk group of children with socialization problems in the children’s team. A child who is closing a worry of grandmother who gets all the attention and love, which most of the time spends at home, may not be able to communicate with other children, and the school will have problems adaptation in the team.

What to do if the child is not friendly? Ways to overcome this problem

1. If a child is an outsider in a children’s team due to not enough fashionable clothes or a mobile phone, you should not rush in extremes – ignore this problem or immediately buy the most expensive model. Need to talk to the child whatever he wanted to have, Discuss the plan of the upcoming purchase – how to save money to purchase a phone when you buy, on which model. So the child will feel meaningful because With his opinion will be considered – And this is very important.
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   If the child does not accept the children’s team due to excess completeness or thin, Solving this problem can be in sports. It is necessary to record a child in the sports section, to do the program on his improvement. Well, if he will go to the sports section with someone from classmates, friends in the playground, kindergarten – he will have more opportunities to contact with another child, to find in his face of a friend and like-minded person.

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   Parents need to understand themselves, and also give to understand the child – because of what kind of actions, qualities, the tricks do not want to communicate peers. The child needs to help overcome the difficulties in communicating, as well as their own complexes, and in this work will be very good support Consultation of an experienced psychologist.

4. Child having difficulty social adaptation, Parents can talk about their own experience in childhood, When they also turned out to be alone, without friends.
5. Parents, as the closest child, people do not hide from this childhood problem – loneliness – in the hope that all «Self pass». You need to devote to the child a maximum of attention, visit children with him. Since a child having difficulties in communicating with peers, the most calmly feels in his familiar home atmosphere, you need to arrange at home children’s holidays – And on the birthday of the baby, and just so.
6. The child must be sure Feel support for parents. He needs to constantly say that they love him that together they will solve all the problems that he is strong and very confident. Child can entrust distribute children on the playground candy or apples – He will immediately become «authority» In a children’s environment, and it will be the first step in its proper socialization.
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   Each initiative closed and indecisive child must be supported by encouraging it. Any of his steps, albeit awkward, to establish contacts with other children, you need to encourage and praise. In no case with a child It is impossible to speak badly about those children with whom he most often plays Or communicates – it can kill the whole further initiative for the root.

8. For the best adaptation of the child you need teach respect other children, be able to talk «No», Manage your emotions and find acceptable forms of their demonstration surrounding people. The best way to adapt the child – through collective games with participation and under the wise leadership of adults. You can organize fun contests, theatrical performances, plot-role-playing games – everything will go only for advantage, and soon the child will appear friends, and he will learn how to build contacts with the surrounding people.
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   If a child who does not have friends is visited by a kindergarten or school, parents need Share your observations and experiences with teacher. Adults should together think over the socialization of this kid together, his soft infusion in the active life of the team.